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Can I train foreign children?
If your own child has a visit, the two swing up until one or both overdo it. How do you react?
How do you react when a visitor or another child behaves next to it in the playground? Can one be prepared, even scolding it?
Each family has their own rules and limits when it comes to living together. If a visitor child comes to this special social structure, it must get to know these basic rules.
But often children are, they are at home for the first time at a friend, reserved and shy. Rules and borders have not yet been tested, intervention on the part of the parents is not required. But that changes, the more often a friend goes into and out and the better he or she met siblings and parents.
Then children, together with their own offspring, really open and test the borders. They also make a lot of nonsense. Things break there, often it gets louder and sometimes someone in the tone.
How should you react as a parents? Can you give way to the visitor child and even scold it with it, as would be done with your child?
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Of course, you can try to avoid situations that could escalate and require the parents' intervention. For example, if you just never let your child invite friends. However, this is very unrealistic and would also be quite mean. That is why experts advise to point out a visitor child, just like your child, about misconduct.
Ideally, you stay calm, but definitely. So you convey to the (visiting) child in factual tone what is allowed in your own house and what is not. So where the very personal limits are. Because these limits and rules that apply to their own children should also apply to friends of the children who are visiting. If you were not reacted to not keeping up, your child would be unnecessarily confused.
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A little exaggerated can be said that it does not hurt children to hear criticism from other parents, but can promote them in a way. Because they learn by the fact that every person sets different limits and priorities. And that you have to come to terms with them when you want to play a friend with him, using the example of the children.
Conversely, the friend of the child does not stick to the house rules even after repeated request, he or she must not come to visit for a while. It is less about punishing the child rather than maintaining their own limits.
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Scolding, becoming a loud or screaming in the classic sense, parents should neither with their own nor with a visitor child. Because the volume primarily scares children. What you want to tell you is often lost.
It is more memorable and, above all, more understandable for children if you tell them calmly and determined what was going wrong and what could have been done better or differently. It is important to make it understandable where exactly the limit was exceeded, so what is allowed and what is in no way possible. As a parents, you remain credible for your own offspring.
In 'Ich-messages' you don't attack anyone and remains factual: "I don't want to be shouting around in my house", "If you want to play hide-and-seek, I want you to do it outside." Experts advise you to think about how to react beforehand when the children are not accepted. This helps a lot to stay calm and to maintain the version.
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Even outside of your own four walls, situations can occur in which you feel asked to adjust a foreign child. For example, if one distributes the right thing in the playground, takes something from another child or throws with sand.
If there is a danger to the health of others or your own child, you should and may intervene immediately. Also at the risk that the parents' parents are not good at all. Only helps, stay calm, explain the situation and to remove yourself in doubt. After all, nobody likes to see when a non -family person 'regulates' their own child.
If no one is immediately at risk because a child is up to mischief at the playground, one can also wait and hope that this child's parents are present and intervene themselves. If you even know the parents, you can also point them out in a friendly manner, but please react now.
If nothing happens, you can intervene yourself. But instead of calling the distance to the Stänkerkind, you should approach it, go at eye level and explain what is going wrong and what would be right instead.
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Important note at the end: The information and tips in this article are only suggestions. Every child is different and reacts in its own way. It is therefore important that you go into your child and find out which way is the best for you.
