There is no patent recipe that can be used to raise your children. Because there is neither one right nor a single wrong. Firstly, because every child is different and reacts differently. But also because parents have different ideas.
However, everyone agrees that children need and have to learn certain things in order to be on their own, safe legs at some point. How parents do this is at least as individual as the children. However, a pattern can be seen. We handled ourselves under our mums and reveal what children need to develop a strong self -confidence.
1. Recognition and criticism
It is important to praise children for things that have made them particularly good, beautiful or persistent. It should not always be the result of the praise, but above all the work invested that the child brought to this point. Stay honest, it is very important. Nothing shakes a children's soul more than finding out that the hymns of praise were simply flunker.
In addition to positive and encouraging criticism, it is just as important to learn to deal with negative criticism. Because, only those who can see their mistakes can really learn from them. When recognizing mistakes, children need careful help at the beginning. Constructive criticism is particularly in demand here.
2. Independence
Independence is important for children even in the early toddler age. Of course, something goes wrong every now and then when the child, for example, holds the spoon alone for the first time or later dresses alone. However, a child grows on each of these occasions. Especially if, after countless failed attempts, the first time succeeds properly.
The older a child gets, the greater the milestones that it has to manage, but the greater the steps towards independence. The first meeting with friend without parents, go to school alone for the first time, drive alone for the first time. The more we parents can let go of our child (which is difficult every first time), the stronger and greater his self -confidence.
3. Freedom of choice
Your child wants to feel like a full member of the family early on. Show him that his voice counts and listen. Is entitled to decisions. Even if you will sometimes be convinced that it is not correct. Let your child have positive and negative experiences. It will learn from both.
If you learn to make your own decisions, you also learn to have to cope with the consequences. And that is important in later life. If you can make a decision, don't shy away from challenges and sometimes take a risk.
4. Time and physical closeness
It is particularly important for children that we take enough time for them. In addition, there are also pats, because the child feels about physical closeness how much they are loved.
The loving stroking over the head, an intimate hug or cuddling together on the sofa - they are these gestures that your child needs. This makes it feel safe, safe and accepted. Show your child that it is the most important person all over the world for you.
5. Unconditional love
Every child comes up with less glorious ideas at some point. Then things break, disappear or are damaged. As a parents, of course, you don't just have to accept that and certainly not you have to free your child from every difficulty.
However, with everything, whether good and bad, a child must know that his parents are always there and love that it is loved unconditionally. Even if the parents don't seem to be the greatest fans because of a stupidity.
6. Halt
A child has to grow up with the feeling that it can always rely on the help of his parents. It has to know that it is understood. It has to know that his parents are at his side. This basic trust helps him to risk something. And it helps him understand what it means to be there for each other.
Giving it not only means being there for the child in difficult situations. Also give everyday situations, gestures and rituals such as, fixed meal times or the common series showing or chatting during the day just before going to bed.
7. Early contact with other children
So that your child can expand his social skills, it is extremely important that it has the opportunity to be with other children early on, whether in the daycare, the play groups or at regular meetings with friends.
Children learn important skills from and with other children. You learn to share, assert yourself and make compromises. They learn to argue, take into account and what it means to be part of a group. And very important, in interaction with smaller, peers or larger children, they learn to accept their own limits and that of others.
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