© AdobeStock/ NDABCREATIVITY
With your help: This is how your child learns to stand up for yourself
In order for your child to learn how important his own limits are, you can help him carefully enforce them. How, you will find out right here.
There are situations in life, you just want the soil to open up and you can disappear. Or that there is at least someone who saves you from this situation.
A person who intervenes just says the right thing and ensures that you can really easily escape the situation without noticing or even injuring someone feelings.
"Family word" as invisible support
For our children we canthese people are. Because you too know situations, you want to say no or just don't have to answer, but don't dare to be directly, for fear of violating your counterpart's feelings.
And it is precisely for these situations that a secret sentence or a family word is needed that parents immediately let us know that our help is required.
Also read:
Children can easily learn to stand up for themselves
Important:The secret signal between the parents and the child should not become a escape from responsibility. It is not about encouraging children to constantly avoid unpleasant situations, but about learning to stand for themselves without having to maneuver themselves in an unwanted corner.
Rather, the sentence is a straw if it suddenly becomes emotionally difficult. He creates space with itcan find a solution.
It is difficult for you to express your own needs and wishes, especially if you have to make a decision between your own wishes and those of a friend.
But it is important that children learn to set limits, even among friends. You have to learn that no sags do not mean that you don't like someone, but that you respect yourself. Children who learn to perceive their own needs and set limits later become more confident and less susceptible to inappropriate external demands.
Also read:
Why a family word with the children is worth gold
In order to become aware of their own limits and learn to listen to them, children can help. I have agreed with my children a sentence that lets me know that they just want to say no, but need a little help.
And it is very simple: "I have to ask my mother/ parents." If my son or daughter says that emphasizes on the phone or at the door, I know what is in demand. A simple "No, unfortunately not (today) is not", because of me is often enough.
By giving me responsibility for your cancellation, you make yourself, but also the other child much more bearable. And I honestly don't mind when another child thinks that I am "pretty stupid/ strict/ common". I can handle it very well because I know that my children don't think that (especially 😋).
More topics:
