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Tips against forgetfulness in puberty
Many teens are forgetful with the entry into puberty.
The brain of teenagers no longer works properly in the high phase of puberty. And you can't do anything for it. What helps you now!
Our son is now 14 years old and he does not fulfill the majority of the clichés that this age has. He is neither rebellious, nor does he strike the nights on the PC around his ears or roam the houses with friends and makes nonsense. He is a fairly chilled teenager.
However, one thing reveals that puberty messes up a bit: it forgets everything. And if I say everything, then I mean everything. Do you remember the typical teacher set: "If your head hadn't grown on your neck, would you also forget it"? That is exactly our son.
He forgets his bike at the school with which he drove in the morning. He forgets the walk with the dog, which he was reminded of with a note and a WhatsApp message. He forgets the shower, the email to the teacher, the table tennis racket on the way to table tennis training. Actually there is nothing that he can't forget.
It is almost out of the question that he does not make this on purpose. But why is his head currently a very coarse sieve?
Guilt is, of course, puberty!
With entry into puberty, young people not only change appearances and bodies massive, no, a lot changes in their heads too. Existing nerve connections are cut to create new ones, soexplainedIt Michael Schulte-Markwort, director of the Clinic for Child Psychiatry and Psychosomatics in the University Hospital Hamburg-Eppendorf.
And if a connection has been cut and the new one is not yet properly connected, well there can be failures. Classic conversion problems.
At the same time, the director explains, pubescent teens lose their sense of time. Rather, they lived at the moment. Therefore, for example, the waste removal can be "equal" within 5 minutes, but only after 5 hours can be done. Or not at all.
Forgetfulness in response to stress
The common thing is that while the child has to do with somehow get his life in order, we parents often have increased demands on the child that is no longer so small. We trust you (rightly) more and expect more. However, this is a bad combination in the high phase of puberty.
This can be used in stress in one or the other teen and it is also known for making people shot instead of conscientious.
Be the informed technician!
So what can you do? In order to stay with the image of the renovation work that is going in the head of the teens, we parents should understand ourselves as the technician informed about it. Means: On the one hand, we should have an understanding with our children and simply remember them again at one point or another.
Especially when it comes to things that we know that they are particularly important to us or the child. In the rarest of cases, it is an act to ask the offspring whether he has packed the table tennis bat or the dog could already make it easier.
Nobody has to run or call their teenager 24/7, but where it is easy for us and does not really cost us energy, we can support it with simple means. The children themselves are often annoyed by their gunshot.
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