I am recently over oneTiktokStumped in which a mother and grandma (Babyboomer generation) makes fun of how her daughter (Millennial) raises her children today. Above all, the written instructions of the daughter to her for the care of theAre you a thorn in the side and follows the sentence that everyone has heard of their own parents or the in -laws: "I wonder how I could raise my children at the time?"
The answer to this question could actually be very simple: "Different." However, it does not hit the core of the rhetorical question. What the grandma from the Tikok and other critics actually want to say millennial parents actually want to say when they ask this question: "You oversurance and rush your children."
So what's on if(Our parents and the classic baby boomers) denounce that you 'forgive' your children, to soften up and serve and dependent people? What do we do so differently that it heats up your minds so much that they are forced to post their opinion on Tikok, Insta or in their WhatsApp status?
1. Don't be afraid of emotions
When I grew up, it was normal to have feelings under control. Sayings like "Don't be like this!" or "pull yourself together!" were on the agenda, at home, at school or at any other place where children and adults came together. You had to control yourself, what else would the others think. Ideally, feelings were simply suppressed.
Today my generation, the millennial generation, makes it differently: we make sure that our children can express their emotions. Yes, you can cry, you canBeing, and you can just be sad without needing a "plan B" to calm down again.
Being aware of his feelings and accepting them is one of the pillars of millennial education. Because we know that if children know that they can open up to us at any time, this strengthens youAnd their self -esteem. You learn that your feelings are not only legitimate, but also important.
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2. (over) housing
We, the millennial parents, are those who prefer to make the world a little softer for our children than we experienced it ourselves at the time. But I don't think that overheating is the right term. Rather, we are concerned with protection through care and a strong bond. As parents of today, we try to offer the children a safe space in a world that rotates faster and faster in which information is always available everywhere and everywhere, a place where they know that they are collected.
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This type of care can be exaggerated to inhibit the independence of the children. But I also see them as a balancing act: when I notice that my children are moreI let go. And I let them make mistakes, even if it sometimes hurts. But you never have to be afraid of the consequences.
3. Praise pioneers
We are often accused of being a generation that praises their children too much. And maybe you can really call us the "praise pioneers", but that doesn't mean that our children should have unrealistically high expectations themselves.
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The opposite is the case: our reinforcement should not only strengthen the self -awareness of our children, but also give them the tools to deal constructively with the challenges of life.
In today's performance society, it is important that children learn from an early age to believe in themselves. My generation does not want their children to have the feeling that they have failed. Instead, we say: "You haven't done it yet, but you will make it with practice and patience."
4. Digital Natives
We, the Millennials, are among the first to be called digital natives, that is, those generations that have grown up in the digital and networked world. A world that our parents could only dream. In fact, this is precisely why we are aware that the digital world is a double -edged sword in which, in addition to education and infinite information, there are also many dangers.
But keeping children away from technology such as cell phone and computers is utopian. All of our lives are shaped by technology during the day. We Millennials therefore try to create a frame for use, with alternative offers, but also on screen times and regulation apps.
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And our parents also need this framework that our children need in this digital age in this digital age. Because even if, as you always emphasize, you have raised "without major problems", you did it at a completely different time.
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