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It's about trust, respect and limits.
Children sometimes find it difficult to accept the no from mom or dad. But there is a trick that sets a clear limit.
Parents know the situation when the child wants something and does not ask once or twice, but constantly. Often it goes until mom or dad. Tears, apologies follow and the matter is initially laid. Until the child's need germinates again and the same game starts from the front.
As a parents, you often feel provoked because you cannot understand why the child asks again whether it can watch TV, gamble or eat an ice cream, the last time you said no 5 minutes ago. And also very loud and clear.
From the child's point of view, the therapist Tommy Ash explains in an Instagram video, but it makes a lot of sense to ask again, precisely because the parents have lost the version.
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He explains that because the child has managed to change the emotions of his parent through his constant questions, it believes that there is also the possibility that the opinion of mom or dad will change again. So it continues to ask. This creates more or less a circulation.
Broken Record Technik breaks the circulation
In order to make it clear to a child that a no really means no, parents should keep the version. As Ash explains, no matter what the child says, how it behaves or acts to see his wish put into practice, always say no in the same calm way.
In the best case, parents should sound like a broken record (in English: Broken Record), which always plays the same section.
In this way, the parents' no remains clear and precise, does not require any further explanations and also does not offer any space for discussions. In the first attempts it may take a little longer for the child toUnderstand, but once she is set, the child will accept her.
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