Love overcomes everything - including age limits. But are such relationships just as permanent as from peers? A current study dealt with this question. And yes, there is the perfect age difference in relationships.
Table of contents
- Age difference plays a role
- Older man and young woman - that usually doesn't go well for long
- Great age difference is a danger to happiness in relationships
- The age is not everything
At least that is what scientists wantMichigan State Universityand found out the Department of Economics at Emory University in Atlanta. You have sighted the data from 3000 couples in order to be able to name the risk factors for a separation. And lo and behold: the age difference with a couple is not that unimportant.
SeaStatesmanIn most cases, in most cases, the man is older in a heterosexual relationship - as a rule for four years. But what if one of the two is much older than the other? Can such a relationship go really well?
Age difference plays a role
At some point around 40 she seems to suddenly appear in some men-the infamous Midlife crisis. And how is she cushioned? Exactly: with a much younger woman at the side.
Suddenly a fresh flirt is supposed to wake up new spirits, polish the ego and at least feel the age back. A bit like an emotional youth fountain - just with real people instead of potion.
Sure, not every relationship with age difference is based on this pattern - and of course the whole thing is a rather wasted cliché. But if you are suddenly replaced as a long -time partner, it is anything but easy to put away. Especially when you look around and realize in your own circle of friends: Unfortunately, this scenario is not that unusual.
On the one hand, you ask yourself: What does a man find about the 40 of the young thing that is at the age of his children? Sure, it is young and full of energy. Young women are great. But somehow both separate one or the other generation. And the question also remains: What about the hell does a young woman want from a man who could be her father? Because he's getting old and is not quite as fresh as at 18.
Inside, a man with his mid -40th is no more youngster. Interested in other things, has already had different experiences and also leads a very different living than the student may do at 20. Nevertheless, the combination is: older man and young woman keep watching.
The opposite case, i.e. that a woman grabs a younger one, is still much less common. Especially since a woman who grabs a younger one often has to listen to stupid comments, for example, you take a Heidi Klum and her husband Tom Kaulitz. There wasn't much nice in the comments to express it harmlessly.
Apart from the fact that we women naturally have the right to grab a younger guy: Personally, I would simply lack the experience of life, which men often make very sexy.
Also read:
Older man and young woman - that usually doesn't go well for long
And that's why you can't help but take a little bit of malice if you take a closer look at the results of the American study. It says black on white: If a man is looking for a partner who could be his daughter (and vice versa), then it may work well for a while, but not in the long run. Because at some point he is missing: the common denominator. Here are the exact numbers - including forecasts:
The risk of separation increases compared to couples of the same age with an age difference:
- of one year by just 3 percent
- In five years differed by 18 percent
- at ten years old age difference by 39 percent
- In 20 years, already a whopping 95 percent
- and with an age difference of 30 years even by 172 percent
Asked: age difference in relationships
Great age difference is a danger to happiness in relationships
The greater the age difference, the less the prospect of a long, happy relationship. And the closer both of them lie together in terms of age, the sooner they will be happy with each other in the long term.
According to the researchers, the reasons for this were in common values that also make partnerships stable. Preferences, for example for music, films, the way to shape leisure time, the different ways of life of friends and expectations regarding sex.
While the younger of both may still live in a shared apartment and turns the night a day at the weekend, the older one enjoys completely different things. And as exciting as the immersion in the strange world may be: at some point it just stranges it.
Read too:
The age is not everything
Of course, it's not just about age difference if a relationship doesn't work long. According to the study, the degree of education also plays a role and whether there are children or not. Of course, many couples stay together longer than childless because of the children together.
And ultimately there is also what is more beautiful in life: a short but extremely exciting, enriching relationship or a hell come out as long as possible? However, if you want to react more relaxed, if the ex pulls away with a much younger man, the results of the study will still delight a little.
