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Long single: what could be the consequences?
We'll tell you what can happen after a long single phase.
Life as a single comes with many advantages. But that's not all: Anyone who is single for a long time also has to deal with negative consequences.
“Just wait and see, the right person will come along soon” or “You’re so pretty, I don’t understand why you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend.” – Long-term singles have to endure these sentences and much more over and over again let. They are considered a real classic at family celebrations etc.
What many forget: In addition to the singles who meander from one dating app to the next and are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, there are also singles who don't want to change anything about their relationship status and are happy to be single.
No matter which group you belong to: As a long-term single, you acquire certain behavior patterns and character traits that are typical - at least according to online health advice "Charlie Health“. Do you find yourself in these 7 behaviors?
1. Fear of rejection
Many long-term singles avoid dating, let alone falling in love, for fear of being rejected. The panic of getting hurt again is too great. For this reason, they tend to be cautious and don't let someone new approach them easily. More than just a little small talk is necessary.
2. Loneliness
As already described above: Some singles love to be alone and enjoy time with themselves. But if you are single for a long time, you may also feel a few moments of loneliness. This can be particularly intense when all the other friends around you have a partner at their side.
3. Low self-confidence
Of course, people in relationships can also struggle with low self-confidence, but anyone who is alone for a long time is constantly exposed to prejudices that can really eat away at their self-confidence.
Especially in a world where a relationship and the things that go with it, such as getting married and having children, are still considered the norm and sometimes even a social obligation, self-esteem can suffer under this constant pressure.
4. Social anxiety
During the Covid-19 pandemic, many people have made themselves comfortable at home - some, perhaps even a little too comfortable. Many long-term singles simply avoid meeting new people due to social anxiety.
New people or new situations can quickly seem overwhelming and cause sensory overload. Here, simply feeling around and trying things out is probably the best solution.
5. Other priorities
While everyone around you is in a relationship, happily married or perhaps even with children, long-term singles have different priorities. The focus can then be on your circle of friends, for example, which can be just as fulfilling as a happy relationship. Many people also plunge into a new hobby and find their passion there.
6. Personal growth
Likewise, singles focus more on their personal growth. Of course, this can also happen in a happy relationship and is not directly linked to the relationship status.
But as a long-term single, you probably invest more time in yourself and strive specifically for your goals.
7. Rejection of romantic relationships
Rom-Com? No thanks! Many long-term singles reject the idea of a romantic relationship. This may only be the case for a short time, but even in the long term some singles distance themselves from this idea.
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Of course, these points must all be considered completely individually and do not apply as a general rule for long-term singles. It is important to listen to your feelings - whether you are in a relationship, long-term single or someone who is currently in a situation.
