Psychological violence: these are important signs of a toxic relationship

The facts and numbers of recent years on the subjectAre terrifying: women are often victims of hideous violence, which in most cases are committed by those who say they love them. In fact, more than half of the female of violent men are committed who are connected to the victim through any relationship, regardless of whether they are husbands or family members, friends or ex-friends.

DieFederal criminal statistics on partnership violence 2023says that in 2023 256,276 affected domestic violence were registered. Of these, 167,865 women became victims of violence in connection with partnerships. This means an increase in partnership violence by 6.4 percent compared to the previous year.

However, the type of violence that is exposed to women is not only physical in nature: there is a different form of abuse, which is more subtle and therefore less visible, namely thatpsychic. And this type of violence is so perfidious because it is very often not recognized as such or being hidden out of shame. And: it usually takes place behind closed doors.

In fact, there are many people intoxic relationshipsLive and are not even aware of it. What seems completely inexplicable from the outside there are psychological reasons. Because the tactic of mental violent actors isextremely manipulative. It begins imperceptibly and pulls the victim down more and more into a pull and takes away every self -esteem. And: perpetrators deliberately choose victims who can do little to counter their tactics.

Since the majority of the crimes of men go out, I subsequently write in this articlePerpetratorandPartner. Of course, this should not and should not suggest that there are no cases of psychological violence that women, men, men and women in men and women exercise on women. That should be clear.

So yourrecognizeIf you or someone else is exposed to mental violence by the partner, you will find some useful information about the tactics and typical behavior of the perpetrators below.

Here you will find tips on how to get out of a relationship with mental violence. It is important:Find helpand finds a way out of the toxic relationship. The faster, the better.

To understand that you alsoemotional abuseis exposed to his partner, on the one hand you should pay attention to the classic parameters of a good relationship. How does the partner deal with you? Does he respect you as a person? Respond to your wishes and needs?

However, it is often easier to analyze the situation the other way around. So not to query what you expect from a relationship (because here the victims usually lie to themselves), but to know certain behaviors that are typical for the perpetrators.

There are some classic behaviors that are classified as mental violence that may not be aware of everyone. Especially not if you are already in such amanipulative relationshiplocated. Recognizing them is a first important step for the victims.

Because if you are clear about the unhealthy situation you are in, you will also see that you need help to escape from this vicious circle. (You can find help and important information pages below).

Those who exercise psychological violence usually follow a simple pattern, it starts with the devaluation of the other person. In addition, victims tend to explain all things to excuse the behavior of the violent partner. Or very typical: to look for the fault with yourself.

That sounds absurd, but that has a simple reason. Because the violent perpetrator continuously exerts pressure by devaluing his partner. It may start with criticism of clothing or make-up, but then quickly continues to serious and disparaging insults of the person, work, their way of living or interacting with others.

Unfortunately, this continuous criticism and humiliation, completely freely and unfounded, mostly perceives the victim as true and begins to doubt himself and your own self -worth.

The goal of the perpetrator: that the partner feels small and inadequate for himself and thus becomes increasing dependency on him. Because the victim himself, should feel unsettled and disassembled and believe it is to blame for the fact that it always comes to arguments and outbreaks of anger.

To punish someone with non -observance and silence is also very typical of mental violence in a partnership. The silence ensures that the partner feels inadequate and guilty without knowing what she did. Nevertheless, she clearly thinks that it is that must have made a mistake. Driven by the desire that the partner is conciliatory and no longer angry, she tries everything to graciously make him.

indifferenceandNon -communicationcauses fear, discomfort and deep uncertainty: it is a perfidious means for the perpetrator to dominate and manipulate his victim.

is also extremely manipulating and therefore very classic in mental violent actors. To dominate the partner, the perpetrator keeps her in constant ignorance. It is constantly unsettled by ambiguous and unclear behavior. His mood, which he never clearly shows, but only indicates, decides on the prosperity and spoilage. And that every day.

Half sentences, reasonless irritating tones, indifference, bad mood and an aggressive facial expressions and gestures: These are all ways to unsettle the partner or to let her believe that she was responsible for it and did something wrong again.

In this case too, the result is the same: the woman affected feels guilty and insecure, she doubts about herself and her perception. A good means for the perpetrator to further undermine her self -esteem and self -confidence. So she has her everyday life less and less under control and gets more and more depending on her partner.

Another very typical behavior pattern is that the perpetrator mimics the victim. No matter what arises in discrepancies, the partner is presented as the culprit. The perpetrator himself presents himself to be suffering and incorrectly treated.

The goal is again very clear: the perpetrator wants to have the situation in his hand and further discredit his counterpart, so that it feels completely unable. Because unfortunately it is the case that this perfidious behavior leads to the victim himself believes that it is the guilty person and does everything to go back to the trust and affection of the perpetrator.

Also denotes a very classic method of mental violence. Here the victim is manipulated so cleverly that it doubts his own perception and judgment.

The perpetrator always produces situations in which it is apparently clear that the woman is completely wrong, misjudged the situation, sees or hears things that do not exist at all. Memories are also presented as not correct and completely conceived. Until the woman herself believes to get crazy.

It is hardly able to shape her normal everyday life in this way. The perpetrator himself is confident and suggests that only he can help (as a hero ") alone. And again the woman is where he wants her: in total dependency on him and isolated from the outside world. Because so unsettled, many victims no longer dare to entrust themselves to others. A vicious circle.

Many perpetrators who mentally abuse her partner or ex-partner suffer from extreme jealousy. And without that there is a good reason or occasion. The perpetrators are obsessed with their jealousy. The perpetrator believes that he can put power on his partner by not considering her as a woman, but as his property.

Specifically, he shows his extreme jealousy in exaggerated reactions and obsessive behaviors that make life impossible with him. The woman is increasingly manipulated because she feels guilty and tries to do everything to make the partner off and get angry again.

Unfortunately, all of these manipulative techniques always work because the perpetrators also ensure that the victim is socially isolated. This is the only way to do your stitch. Without a confidant, the woman is helplessly delivered to you. Nobody who can give his opinion on the situation from the outside, everything is only discussed between the perpetrator and the victim.

The partner creates social isolation by gradually discrediting the friend, friends and relatives. "Look here, everyone is angry with you and don't want to treat you anything good, only I am close to you and you." If the woman has no one at some point that she can trust, psychological violence increases more and more. A neutral view and outside help is now deliberately switched off by the perpetrator.

As if that weren't enough, there are often explicit threats that further tighten the situation and plunge the woman in complete despair. After the partner has implemented all the previous tactics, he can be fully and entitled to his power: the woman feels insecure and completely lost, so that she has nothing to oppose his blackmail and threats.

Since she thinks she is worthless and incapable, she can hardly defend herself. Especially since it is completely dependent on him, otherwise no longer has social contacts and is afraid of being alone. If the partner threatens to her, she goes into it to avoid his bad mood, his attacks and his aggression.

If there are children together in the relationship or marriage, there is of course a massive pressure of pressure on the woman. Losing them or taking them their father, destroying the family and also the fact that he could do something to the children or they even become a witness to domestic violence: all of this exerts an enormous pressure on the victim. Of course, this is aware of this and often children are consciously used as a means of pressure.

In most cases, people who become mentally violent suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder. They often suffered emotional trauma in their childhood or had no stable environment and no real caregiver. So they are then unable to build a healthy relationship in adulthood. It is not possible with a respcent exchange of love, affection and trust.

Often narcissists consciously look for partners who are sensitive and rather insecure, but at the same time attentive and compassionate enough to respond to the wishes of the narcissist. Because of their compassionate nature, they easily go into the trap. Unfortunately, there are two characters that fit perfectly for the purposes of the perpetrator. For the partners, however, the bond with the narcissistic types is extremely toxic and self -destructive.

In order to get out of the unhealthy situation of mental violence, you first need awareness that you are in a dangerous relationship. Ultimately, you won't change or even heal a person who exercises psychological violence on a partner. That must be clear to the victim. Women often stay because they believe that they can save or change their partner. But without a deeper therapy, this will not work.

The only right thing that the victim of emotional abuse can do is to leave the person in question. However, since the victims are mostly mentally struck and have neither the strength nor the social contacts that could offer help, this is an extremely difficult step for them.

Therefore it is important that you first recognize the situation and then make it aoutsiderto ask for help. Because the victims absolutely need this support. Anyone who overcomes themselves and brings up the courage to entrust themselves with a (formerly) close personRelatives, oneSelf -help groupor othersprofessional help offers, it has taken an important step and can be extremely proud of himself. It is not a sign of weakness to escape the unsustainable situation.

Here are some tips that can help to get out of a situation of mental violence: