*Inner views: Louise Morel about how to get lesbian (in ten steps)

You have recognized that your heterosexuality may not be as natural as you thought, and that it forcing you into a role that may not suit you at all. In theory, you understood that as a lesbian you would live a more emancipated and happier life, and believe that you are able to find a woman attractive, but you have never had sexual or romantic experience with a woman. Welcome to the circle of the Wiss Bi-greedy! The Wiss Bi-Greeder, or Bi Curious, is a woman who defines herself as a hetero and has mainly relationships with men, but would not be averse to sleeping with a woman to see what it's like. Recognizing the wise bi-greedy woman is not difficult: this is the one who gets to other girls at parties to kiss them or, if you like it, more, but cannot (still!) To have seriously imagined having a relationship with a person who is not a Cisheterosexual man. "I think she thinks Megacute, but I'm not sure if I find it hot." Oh, this sentence! If I had received one euro for every time a friend spoke to him in my presence, I could finally indulge in life full of debauchery and idle aisle that I have always dreamed of. Almost all heteras in my area assert that they find many women nicely and can imagine kissing them, but "nothing more". From this they conclude that they could never become lesbian, even though they wanted it so much. It is true that it can be difficult for women to draw a border between attraction (I want them) and envy (I want to be like her), precisely because we have been trimmed for a long time to perceive others as rivals. Also the soft porn picture with its wet kisses among women is not exactly a help: I ​​really desire this woman or do I play the game to feel desirable in the eyes of a (present or only imagined) man who is devoted to the spectacle? Thinking questions that are difficult to answer. However, I would like to consider that it happens that even a lesbian is not immediately grasped by an irresistible wave of excitement when she sees a good -looking woman. When I started exploring my desire for women, I was not exactly keen to give every girl to give my taste a cunnilingus - especially since I felt a certain aversion to my own gender at the time. Try to remember: When you started to smooch with boys as a teen, do you immediately take a look at blowjobs and doggystyle or did you slow yourself up from a quiet idea without having a clear goal? Do you understand what I want to do? When we start exploring our sapphian desire, we have the sexual maturity of a pre -pubescent teenager, even if we are already thirty, forty or fifty at the time. We can find a woman attractive and still have difficulty to imagine where an approach could lead. That has nothing surprising. And maybe the desire for some of us really exhausts itself. We do not all have the same inclinations and must never get involved in something that does not appeal to us. But brutal to hit the door that has just opened a gap to the lesbian desire because you cannot imagine that the girl with the shoulder -free top, which attracts your gaze, fingered while standing at the counter would be really a shame and testifies to panic fear of being a lesbian than real disinterest. You don't know if you feel "really drawn to her"? OK. How about if you take the time and the room, to doubt extensively?