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Why it is counterproductive to pay children for learning or housework.
What works in the job has no place in education.
In order to really motivate our children, we occasionally promise you as a reward. Not a good idea, educational expert know.
We parents do everything they can to promote the best in our children. We are your biggest supporters and do not shy away from resorting and encouraging you if you lack the necessary drive.
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Sometimes we also shoot over the goal. For example, if we offer our children financial incentives to move them to help in the household, or if the poorly said class work turns out to be solid two and we put a false in our offspring.
At first glance, money may be a good motivator to persuade the child to work rather unpopular or to learn, but is always the worst alternative to look sustainable.
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Money as a motivator does not belong in education
Children rarely want to learn for school or to help parents at home. In order to motivate them, we quickly pull out our wallet and promote them financial benefits. With a reward in front of the nose, most children then really work and are super motivated.
For the moment exactly the effect we wanted. The child does something for school or does the washing up. However, you already suspect that this motivation phase does not last long. Because she is 'imposed' from a child from the outside: if you do XY, you get XY from me. Psychologists also speak of extrinsic motivators.
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After all, they can lead to a child only doing tasks if it is worth it or if it receives a reward. It makes itself and its actions dependent on the outside.
Actually exactly the opposite of what we parents wanted to achieve with the extra financial injection.
How do you motivate children correctly?
So to convince children that learning is necessary to be good at school or that housework simply belongs to life, parents do not have to do without rewards. But instead of prospect of money as a form of recognition, we should praise them, thank you for your help and let you know that we appreciate your work. Sounds very simple, but in fact very few do.
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The work that the child has invested is much more important than the result, whether test at school, good certificate or a cleared dishwasher. The path that has brought it to this point is therefore that you should highlight.
This ensures that the intrinsic motivation, i.e. the one that comes out of the child alone, grows. And that in turn ensures that the child rely on his actions and skills and does not depend on others.
This creates the best prerequisites to educate an independent and independent person who has also learned to trust yourself and his skills.
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