How to find calm inside and outside and to what extent chaos and stress are related - an interview

Feel comfortable in your? And if so, what is well -being for you? A facility that may correspond to your taste or order? With the "order" this is often such a thing. You quickly raise more than you need, and you may also get this or that inherited over the years. One too much tight. Separating from emotionally charged objects is often more difficult than expected.

Angela Straßburger also accumulated property in her life, which at some point has burdened her. She then dealt intensively with why it is so difficult for us to separate from things. What is really behind chaos and what this has to do with yourself. Today the order expert (who is so much more, alternative practitioner, mental coach andof three children, for example) muck out holistically. She developed the "Seideinzimhe" method-a holistic budget method that can be flexibly adapted to every person. Her book "Less stuff, more freedom" has also recently appeared, in which, in addition to practical clean-up and sorting tips, she also addresses the connection between the disorder and stress, and divides psychological knowledge and personal experiences. She spoke to Elle about her concept and why chaos is so much more than just an exterior.

Angela Straßburger:Everything we perceive in our outside started first. So everything she is surrounding - even what you cannot see, like the electricity or the Internet - was initially a thought. And everything you have in your home or not comes from the inside. Not only from the thoughts, belief systems or embossing that you have, but also of what you feel. What is my stress level and how my energy balance? Order in the outside comes from the order inside. We cannot create external calm if we do not feel calm inside. Even if we clean up everything in a motivational boost, the same pattern is then played again and again, and you will not be able to maintain order.

A.S.:Most of the time it is. Of course there are also people who live in a chaotic home and are therefore happy. You can't say it in general. I am also not concerned with the fact that everyone on the outside absolutely has to create order. Rather, it is about the questions: Do I feel comfortable and satisfied with it what it looks like in my home? Am I calm and energetic? Or do I have a difficult phase in my life? Do I feel stressed, tired and don't feel myself? Did I meet my needs or not? For example, let's assume that you come home after a hard day, sit on the sofa, start scrolling on the cell phone. Actually, you still wanted to clean up the kitchen - because you know that the next morning you will feel more comfortable - but you can't put this priority at the moment. The reason for this can be that you are permanently stressed in a fast -moving life. Stress is of course not just negative. He can help to get in motion to implement things. However, relaxation and relaxation should always follow. If this is out, implementation, such as cleaning up the kitchen, is difficult.

A.S:You just sort everything out radically and pushAside, it may be that this does not come along. This in turn can lead to the order that is not maintained. In addition, emotions that followed can be incurred afterwards. Perhaps you regret that you have mottled this or that object. Ultimately, we project our emotions into objects. If we don't deliberately solve this, it can be uncomfortable. Of course we can generally have memorabilia and things that are important to us. But if property becomes a burden, we should consciously separate from him. Sorts out and skipped this step, the load is still not just gone.

A.S.:Objects from our past often burden us. They are usually unconscious thoughts that not only accompany but block but block. Maybe it feels like throwing a memory away with a person. In my opinion, the most important step is to bring consciousness in and take an observer position. To guide yourself and ask why it is so difficult to muck out this or that object. What thoughts and feelings arise? Are these true or are they based on beliefs? For example, let's take gifts. Often you find it ungrateful to sort out a gift. But basically it is the personal property after receipt. In fact, the act of gift is over from this point in time. Then it is my object that I can determine. And if he is polluted or just standing around, sort out or, for example, to donate to a social department store.

A.S:Disorder can have an immediate effect on us. Most people, as well as studies, take a strain on chaos. It stresses them and puts them under pressure. You always have the feeling that there are unfinished tasks or decisions that still have to be made. Less things mean less work. Because: Every object in the home wants something from one. He needs space and he needs time andto be tidy or cleaned.

A.S:The most important thing is that you define your goal. It's about knowing where to go. Of course you could just start mutating. But if you tidy up and have no idea how much time you need, or what advantages the mucking out will be difficult to stay tuned. The goal is personal why and motivation.

Let's take the example of the basement: when I'm in my apartment and know I need something out of the basement - how do I want to feel? So far it may be the case that I have to search for this or that part first. Or I have to move out of boxes to get it. My goal could be that when I walk into the basement, I know exactly where I have to go, for example to find a screw. After this first step, what I call space-for-space system comes. That means, for example, I start to the left of the door, with whatever there is. Then I work on clockwise. When it is a closet with which I start, I start sorting out from top to bottom. The four steps of sorting out help: First I get everything out. It is important that I know what I own. Then you clean the closet, the shelf or area clean. It's like a fresh start. Then it is possible to categorize the objects. In the fourth step, you sort out within the objects. This simplifies that, for example, because I see, for example, that I have three hammer, but only need one. This system can be used for all areas in which you want to create order.

A.S.:We often overestimate what we can really sort in an hour. This can lead to stress arising and everything you actually wanted to clean up is stuffed back. If you go step by step, you know, okay, I have an hour and make this shelf. If I still have time for more, great. This clarity brings calm and helps to assess yourself realistically and be careful.

A.S.:For me, two areas play a role here: purchase and consumption and habits. To the former: Why is it that there is so much disorder in your own home and you have many objects that you don't need? Could it be that you tend to make impulse purchases? Often there is more behind buying than you think. It is not only that you find something beautiful. Maybe you have thoughts like: If I still have this part and put it on my chest of drawers, it is finally perfect. You can go deeper here: Why is it needed so that it is "perfect"? What does it say about me when it is not perfect? Do I try to unconsciously plug any inner holes with the object that I idealize?

On the subject of habits and routines: Order in the home is not a unique project. It is very often the case that people muck out the muck out as a project that is eventually completed. But: where life is, there is a disorder. It also helps to take out the often negative evaluation of "disorder". It is not bad if the disorder arises, it is part of life. And: Once I have a basic order because I have mucked out and organized, it is much easier to invest a few minutes every day, for example, to clear, for example, freely clear areas.

A.S.:The "Seideinzimas" method is a holistic, flexible household method. It consists of different layers. Basic tasks that you do every day, as well as deep tasks that alternate. And then there are weekly tasks - these are supply tasks such as shopping or transfers - and monthly tasks. Once a month, you take a larger project and break it down so that you can make it within the month. With the "Seideinzimze" method, you know what is on at all times-and what is not.

A.S.:To allow yourself that it can be easy and feel good. If we constantly annoy ourselves that we have to clean up or muck out, we lose sight of gratitude. It is a, to have a home. Instead of saying that you still "have to" do this or the disorder "annoys", you could turn it around - and make yourself aware that you do what you do. So it is also an act of self -care.

A.S.:I love colors, shapes, fabrics and accent color elements in earth or sand tones. But I generally do not feel connected to material objects - it doesn't bother me if they are not there. I attach great importance to my bed and thatis always done. I like free surfaces, they calm our nervous system.

A.S.:That nothing outside that I have inside can solve. Even if my body system might want to believe that so as not to have to feel feelings. This vase, which I supposedly still need, so that it is perfect, will not change anything inside. The purchase only gives me a short dopamine kick. If I don't look at a package and don't get to know and let go, it will stay. I take it everywhere.