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Not everyone has to jump at the thought of having a finger shoved up their ass. But why actually? Because what may seem irritating at first, because up to now only the anus was in your own imagination, can become a source of unexpected pleasure if you get involved with it.
And what's more: a prostate massage also works without fingers in the anus. We will introduce you to the possible variants.
Welcome to the Hintertüchen, welcome to the male G-spot: Here you will find out which tips you should keep in mind so that you or your men can also enjoy it.
What is the prostate and where is it located?
The prostate, also known as the prostate gland, produces the secretion that gives the sperm cells from the testicles legs and supports them on their way to the egg. In other words: It forms a secretion that, together with the sperm cells, forms the male ejaculate. This means they are more mobile on their way to the egg and are better protected from the acidic vaginal environment.
But the prostate can do more than that. Because it is very sensitive and is therefore considered the male G-spot. And you should use this fact for your fun. Because the male orgasm is said to be incredibly good thanks to the prostate massage. Saying: prostate orgasm!
The prostate lies below the urinary bladder or surrounds the urethra. It is about the size of a chestnut. (see image)
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Indirect and direct prostate massage: This is how it works
Direct Prostate Massage:
Since the prostate that promises pleasure is located on the inside, there is one main route that leads directly to it: and that is through the anus. You can reach the prostate by carefully pushing a finger into the anus.
The man's G-spot can be felt about five to seven centimeters behind the exit towards the abdominal wall. This type of massage is called direct prostate massage.
Indirect Prostate Massage:
However, there is also something for everyone who finds having a finger in their butt a little strange: the possibility of indirect massage. Here the prostate is not stimulated from the inside, but from the outside.
This goes through the perineum, i.e. the area between the scrotum and the anus. Here too, the prostate can be stimulated by applying gentle pressure and thus provide a lot of fun.
Man to Man:
Of course, the prostate is also perfectly stimulated by a penis. But even during sex between men, a little finger massage beforehand can't hurt. (If you're a woman who wants to do the same as men, try using a strap-on dildo.)
Sex toys for prostate massage:
A final option is special sex toys for prostate massage. There are special anal toys for this, such as anal beads (here made of soft silicone on Amazon*) or extra anal vibrators (view here on Amazon*) or butt plugs with an integrated prostate vibrator (View now here on Amazon*).
The optimal preparation for the prostate massage
First Things First: You don't have to pay much attention to the indirect prostate massage, but you do have to pay attention to the direct one so that the whole thing doesn't just become painful for the man.
# 1.Usedand don't be stingy when using it. This makes it much more pleasant for him.
# 2.Wash your fingers thoroughly beforehand, the anus is also quite sensitive when it comes to bacteria. Also important: remove rings from time to timeBe careful with fingernails that are too long.
# 3. Of course, the partner should also make sure thatthe anal region is clean. The same rules apply here as for any other type of anal sex.Tip: An anal douche ensures thorough intimate cleaning and hygienic anal sex.Shop here.*
#4. If it’s his “first time,” you have to be togetherensure a relaxed atmosphere, in which he can relax or the right muscles. One should not underestimate the closing qualities of a sphincter. Tip: There is also a special relaxing anal spray (to buy here on Amazon*)
# 5.It is important to gently expand the anus before you want to penetrate it with a toy, finger or penis.For example, there are soft anal plugs made of silicone or other materials that do exactly that, i.e. provide the necessary relaxation for the prostate massage. Because without them, unfortunately, very little works.
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6 tips for the best prostate massage ever
Tipp 1:Wet, wet, wet: To get started, it is essential that things get wet, regardless of whether it is an indirect or direct massage. Apply lube to your fingers and anus so you can lightly circle it with your fingers and then, when it is relaxed, gently penetrate for direct massage.
The gel definitely makes massaging the anus more comfortable for him. Plenty of lubricant is also always beneficial for indirect, i.e. purely external, stimulation of the perineal region.
Tipp 2:Approach slowly. Start by caressing the perineum, either with your hands or orally, and then turn your attention more and more to the target of desire. Finger vibrators are also great for the warm-up program (can be found here on Amazon*).
Tipp 3:If you want to spoil him, don't forget that you have two hands. You can also pamper the penis and testicles at the same time as the prostate massage.
This is hot and also a pretty good “distraction” for beginners. Because this also ensures that he doesn't really realize that you have your hands everywhere - and so he's guaranteed to quickly get a taste for it.
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Tipp 4:When massaging directly with your finger, think about what you like, as the female G-spot and prostate react very similarly. You can feel the small gland with your finger (with plenty of lubricant) and then circle and rub it playfully with light pressure. You can then increase the pressure depending on his reaction.
For advanced users:If he is really relaxed, you can also insert two fingers and encircle the prostate with them.
Tipp 5:Also hot for both: The prostate massage works best when you stimulate him while he is masturbating or when you stimulate him while you make love via penetration. Both ensure a significantly stronger orgasm for him.
Tipp 6:Be open and experiment with sex toys. Regardless of whether it's a butt plug, anal beads, anal dildos and vibrators or prostate dildos and vibrators, with or without a remote control: There are now a wide variety of toys that enrich your sex life and provide the necessary relaxation, especially during anal sex. Use that for yourself.
If, despite all the tips for prostate massage, you realize that this type of sex and pleasure is not for you and your partner, then tick off the man's G-spot topic for yourself and see what other exciting things you can do together can. After all, every sex practice is only as good as you think it is good for you.
