"Less stress in your 30s": The book for everyone who wishes to be ease and energy

In the job we want to start, pursue hobbies fulfilling in our free time and maintain friendships and if there is a family start -up, responsibilities and obligations grow into heaven. Just enjoy the moment, read a book in peace and a series Bingen without a guilty conscience - there is no time for that. Instead, we stare at full schedule, racing to-do lists-and sometimes we hardly get any air with all the expectations from inside and outside.

Some should feel addressed by what is on the corver of a new guide: "If you want more time, lightness and energy, read this book". Because in "Less stress in your 30s" stress management expert Sue Fengler gives easy-to-implement tips on how we can handle everyday life calmly. We learn how to put undesirable habits and recognize time eaters, develop feel-good routines and prioritize clever. There are also famous thirtysometening women such as presenter Aminata Belli, entrepreneur Carmen Kroll or Podcasterinto say.

The book is not only for women, but especially for them. Women in their 30s in particular often struggle with mental load, and when it comes to equal distribution of time, a lot has to change. “In addition, there is still great social pressure on being - especially as women - to be and have to live. How we should look and what our everyday life should look like, ”writes Sue Fengler. As a woman, you are constantly being accompanied by the feeling not to be enough. "Of course, our lack of time in the 30s is strongly related to our social system and the established expectations and structures," said the stress expert.

According to Sue Fengler, this desire for optimization is one of the biggest problems in the 30s. So there is no aspect in our already stressful everyday life, which could not be optimized and the self-optimization content on social media also put us under pressure. From a morning routine that actually thanks usAnd Yoga should bring a relaxed start to the day, a crowded morning becomes. “Selfcare becomes stress in the idea of ​​an ideal day. To reduce the stress, we need one again: even more time. ”

In addition, new technologies ensure that we are always accessible and constantly overflowing. “We often fill breaks immediately - albeit subconsciously. Smartphone scrolls, Netflix, the podcast on the ears on the walk, ”says Sue Fengler. “We are too afraid of boredom and often can no longer endure breaks. We should change that. "

So what now helps against stress in the 30s? Maybe more Me-time in the form of facial masks and foam baths? According to Sue Fengler, this is exactly the wrong approach: "Me-time as a 20-minute break, which we only" treat ourselves "(this word ...) if it has to be absolutely. And with the aim that we continue to work better afterwards. Reminds a bit of flowers for World Women or Mother's Day, right? A nice fleeting moment, but that's it. "

Instead, we should take a break from time to time. Because we also have to learn that again in the hamster wheel of the to-dos: breaks are not lost time. Breaks are productive. Sue Fengler quotes a study by the University of California, which turned out that twelve -minute breaks in which students were able to wander aimlessly during a task increased creativity and productivity after the break. Her conclusion: "If you take breaks regularly, you can also handle situations in which you are under time pressure." And later she adds: "With the positive moments and experiences we take, we fill our energy storage Reduce again and reduce stress. To really prioritize time for yourself and for nice experiences, you have to evaluate them as high as appointments. I help to write myself in the calendar or to the to-do list. Because I have learned that things that are there are important. "

So the motto is: stay calm and take one step after the other. Because, according to Sue Fengler, multitasking is also not the solution: "In stressful situations, instead of multitasking, we help us much more to keep calm, take a deep breath and to do one after the other." For Sue Fengler: Set Priorities. We could not keep all areas of our lives perfectly, instead we have to prioritize: "You can focus on something that is important to you, and then the standard for other areas is just okay."