Psychology: 5 sentences that envy people often say

You are enthusiastic about your new job, your last vacation or just that you are doing really well - and suddenly a comment comes that feels strange. Not directly bad, but not really nice either ... maybe a small swipe or an unnecessary relativization.

Envy is one of these feelings that hardly anyone admits openly. We all feel it - and that is completely normal. It only becomes difficult if envy is not expressed as a healthy motivation, but is hidden in sentences that should make you small. Here are five typical statements where you can see hidden envy.

1. "Oh blatus, I wouldn't have believed that!"

At first glance, that sounds like an honest surprise - maybe even like a compliment. Behind it can also hide a subliminal devaluation of your skills.

Imagine that you proudly tell you that you received a promotion, published your first book or successfully completed a demanding project. Then comes this sentence. Instead of a simple "Wow, congratulations!" It is indirectly indicated that you have probably not been perceived as particularly talented or ambitious.

2. "That's nothing special."

You tell that you have finally booked the big trip to Japan that you have dreamed of for a long time and then something comes: "But at the moment everyone is really flying there." Translation: This is not really something special.

We probably all tend to compare ourselves to other people. Some react when they feel worse in comparison. Because if you are jealous, you don't want to admit that you may have done something that he or she was not ready for. Instead, your success will be reduced.

3. "I could have done - if I had wanted."

"Become self -employed? Sure, I could have done that too, but I preferred to have security. "

This statement is a classic protective mechanism. Instead of honestly admitting that you have not done something, jealous people pretend that it had been their own decision - even if that is not true. Because if you have done something that they didn't do, it feels like a defeat for them. And nobody likes defeats.

4. "Enjoy it as long as it holds!"

"Wow, your new relationship sounds really great. Enjoy it as long as it holds! "

At first that sounds almost like a well -intentioned advice, but in fact there is often a little malice behind it. Instead of just looking forward to you, the person tries to pull you down again. Because if you don't believe in long -term happiness or success, or are afraid to be left, you often transfer this to others.

5. "You have it really easy in life."

"Of course that you are successful - you always had support." - "If you are as lucky as you are, it's no wonder."

Here someone tries to trive your success in external circumstances rather than to your own performance. Sometimes people tend to feel the success of others unjust when they see themselves as disadvantaged. It then feels easier for her to say "she was just lucky" instead of dealing with your own situation.

How do you react to envy?

Envy is a human feeling - and often he has more to do with the person who feels it than with yourself. If you notice that someone is playing down your success or commenting with hidden swipes, there are different ways to react:

Stay calm:Don't be provoked. A simple "THANKS!" Or "Yes, I'm really happy with it" shows self -confidence and takes the envy the opportunity to continue adding.

React with humor:Sometimes it helps to dissolve the situation with a relaxed saying. An ironic "Yes, I have really terribly difficult" can steer the conversation in a different direction.

Set limits:If the envy becomes toxic and shows itself again and again, it can help to end the conversation or the supposed "friendship".

Show empathy:In some cases there is simply frustration or uncertainty behind envy. A sincere “Hey, I understand that it just sounds stupid for you - is there something you want to talk about?” Can work wonders.

In the end, your happiness is yours - and this is nothing for which you have to justify yourself.