Unrequited love: 7 tips to escape heartbreak

What do you do when you're in love with someone but the feeling isn't reciprocated? These 7 tips will help.

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Love can be so beautiful! Butterflies in the stomach, wearing rose-colored glasses – we associate all of these things with being in love. The whole thing can also have negative sides.

Because sometimes it can happen that the person you are in love with does not share the same feelings. That can hurt a lot and scratch your ego.

But this phase will also pass: With these 7 tips you can counteract heartbreak and soon look to the future with hope again!

1. Find the jump

The longer you have the person in your life, the more indispensable you will find them. Therefore, as soon as you notice that she does not return your love, distance yourself. The sooner you find the jump, the sooner you will feel better again.

Don't even get involved in stories like friendship plus or an affair. You want the whole person, not just a crumb thrown at them. So: be consistent and, if possible, break off contact completely.

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2. Be angry, but not unfairly

When it is clear that nothing will happen with the crush, anger follows. How can he or she? Why doesn't he or she love me? But your anger is also unfair. You can't force love, and your crush just doesn't want to. Point.

You can't blame him or her for that (unless the person took advantage of your feelings to make themselves feel great, get you into bed, or whatever. Then yes!). So you can't blame him or her at all just because he or she doesn't tick the way we would like.

And this is the moment when you have to realize: The person may be perfect for you in your mind, be Mr. Right or Mrs. Right: but he IS not perfect, otherwise he would love you. And since your love is unrequited, you have to realize: The person is not into you, but into a different type of person. And that's exactly why he or she isn't perfect for you. Not your lid that fits.

3. It's not up to you

Unrequited love hurts incredibly. Also because someone rejects and rejects us. He or she doesn't want us. A blow to the twelve for our self-esteem. Ultimately we couldn't win the person over. However, this self-destruction must be avoided at all costs. Because that just makes everything worse. We should try to remain logical.

The person may prefer duller women or men than you. Maybe the person doesn't like your taste in clothes, your job, or your sense of humor. And that's all a matter of taste and doesn't make you better or worse. If someone likes fries, you'll never be able to get him or her to be just as keen on a lettuce leaf.

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4. You are in control of your life

Even if your self-confidence is currently in the basement due to unrequited love, make it clear to yourself that you have managed without the person in your life so far. You are not dependent on her, you stand on your own two feet. Since you have your life in your own hands, this is more than painful, but it won't ruin you.

5. Avoid him/her

If he or she has decided against you, don't turn into a clingy puppy. Be proud and stay away. Keyword: break off contact. It's hard, but it's better for you. And he or she will also appreciate it if you accept no. Because that speaks for you.

6. Go outside

Try not to become so isolated in your heartbreak. Even if the person seemed perfect in your eyes and even if everyone else isn't the person you miss, still meet up with loved ones.

No matter if it's a friend, your favorite grandma or whoever. They all like you and will give you warmth and understanding. It's good to feel that and it also rebuilds your ruined self-confidence in no time. You'll see.

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7. Everything has a meaning

If it's not meant to be with him or her and you, then sometimes that makes sense. Trust that it wouldn't have fit. That you wouldn't have been truly happy because you would always have invested and felt more than him or her. And you deserve a great relationship that makes you absolutely happy, with a partner who loves you just as much.

Instead of imagining how great it would have been with that person, think realistically about what it would have been like to be with someone who didn't love you back. Such an imbalance in a relationship never goes well. And the right lid will come. Promised!